Married men dating divorced single mothers
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He thinks that loving someone else’s woman will save him from this fear of intimacy. In my mind, this is an opportunity for growth because triangles are not good for people.
Then he can go after a whole and available single woman. He’s the ‘other man’s’ competition, but not really.Let’s do one at a time starting with the ‘other man.’ He is definitely looking for love in the wrong place and with the wrong person.His superficial belief that he wants someone else’s woman for the convenience is a lie he defensively tells himself.The ‘other man’ gets painfully left out, not yet knowing that is the best thing that could happen to him.All three people in this triangular arrangement have their issues.If the ‘other man’ gets attached he will inevitably at some point start needing more from the married woman. My heart goes out to him more than any one else in this arrangement because he is usually the one who gets disturbed first and has more to lose.
He may start thinking about asking her to leave her husband. He could be thrown out of the triangle and the married couple could end up fixing their relationship, this could happen.
The target of desire in the relationship is the woman. Her husband is not leaving and she is not letting him go (otherwise she wouldn’t need a triangle to cope). It doesn’t matter how negative wife and husband feel about each other, they are together.
It doesn’t matter how passionate the sex with the ‘other man’ in her life is, she is not leaving her husband.
I know the storybooks tell us that it’s better to stay together.
But I think there are plenty of people who never should have gotten together to begin with.
A lot of misery is avoided with a respectful ending and opportunity to start again with someone else after a period of sincere efforts to fix a love relationship.